We can’t hate ourselves into a version of ourselves we can love

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We can’t hate ourselves into a version of ourselves we can love

7 Things to Remember When You Think You're Not Good Enough

1. The people you compare yourself to compare themselves to other people too.

We all compare ourselves to other people, and I can assure you that the people who seem to have it all do not.

When you look at other people through a lens of compassion and understanding rather than judgment and jealousy, you are better able to see them for what they are--human beings. They are beautifully imperfect human beings going through the same universal challenges that we all go through.

2. Your mind can be a very convincing liar.

I saw a quote once that said, "Don't believe everything you think." That quote completely altered the way I react when a cruel or discouraging thought goes through my mind. Thoughts are just thoughts, and it's unhealthy and exhausting to give so much power to the negative ones.

3. There is more right with you than wrong with you.

This powerful reminder is inspired by one of my favorite quotes from Jon Kabat-Zinn: "Until you stop breathing, there's more right with you than wrong with you."

As someone who sometimes tends to zoom in on all my perceived flaws, it helps to remember that there are lots of things I like about myself too--like the fact that I'm alive and breathing and able to pave new paths whenever I choose.

4. You need love the most when you feel you deserve it the least.

This was a recent epiphany of mine, although I'm sure it's been said many times before.

I find that it is most difficult to accept love and understanding from others when I'm in a state of anger, shame, anxiety, or depression. But adopting the above truth really shifted my perspective and made me realize that love is actually the greatest gift I can receive during such times.

5. You have to fully accept and make peace with the "now" before you can reach and feel satisfied with the "later."

One thing I've learned about making changes and reaching for the next rung on the ladder is that you cannot fully feel satisfied with where you're going until you can accept, acknowledge, and appreciate where you are.

Embrace and make peace with where you are, and your journey toward something new will feel much more peaceful, rewarding, and satisfying.

6. Focus on progress rather than perfection and on how far you've come rather than on how far you have left to go.

One of the biggest causes of self-loathing is the hell-bent need to "get it right." We strive for perfection and success, and when we fall short, we feel less than and worthless. What we don't seem to realize is that striving for success and being willing to put ourselves out there is an accomplishment within itself, regardless of how many times we fail.

Instead of berating yourself for messing up and stumbling backward, give yourself a pat on the back for trying, making progress, and coming as far as you have.

7. You can't hate your way into loving yourself.

Telling yourself what a failure you are won't make you any more successful. Telling yourself you're not living up to your full potential won't help you reach a higher potential. Telling yourself you're worthless and unlovable won't make you feel any more worthy or lovable.

I know it sounds almost annoyingly simple, but the only way to achieve self-love is to love yourself--regardless of who you are and where you stand and even if you know you want to change.

You are enough just as you are. And self-love will be a little bit easier every time you remind yourself of that.

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Acceptance. When I am disturbed, it is because a person, place, thing, or situation is unacceptable to me. I find no serenity until I accept my life as being exactly the way it is meant to be. Nothing happens in God’s world by mistake.  Acknowledge the problem, but live the solution!

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Thanks GaL, for posting

Thanks GaL, for posting that. I should print these off and carry them with me for those really tough days. I love it.

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These are all very important

These are all very important reminders and I can relate to each one. Thanks for this

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Thank you! These are very

Thank you! These are very helpful. Much appreciated :)

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thanks for posting that <3

thanks for posting that <3

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