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You are never alone - promi talk in NY times

Hey :) I don't know where to post it, but i found this article from Mark Tyson so great that I wanted to share it with you. I kind of can relate to this article, even though its of course about drugs and alcohol, greatly. Especially about the point that I feel mostly craving for games when I did good, and I kind of want to celebrate myself.

Some keypoints:

  • "I've learned that being sober is more than just avoiding drugs or alcohol. It's a lifestyle focused on making moral choices and elevating the things that make life worth living to the forefront."
  • "Strangely, times of success are most dangerous for me. When people tell me, "You're great" or "Your comeback is amazing" or "You're a god," I could feed right into it and go get high. Hey, if my life is so good, how could smoking a joint be bad?"
  • "I remembered that relapse is a part of recovery."

http://www.nytimes.com/2014/01/04/opinion/mike-tyson-fighting-to-kick-th...

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Hi Wolf, Its all right on.

Hi Wolf,

Its all right on. Welcome back. And yes relapse is a part of recovery.

Hugs

Olga/non member since Dec. 2008 Check out my latest video on Gaming Addiction and public awareness https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=g-6JZLnQ29o

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I don't understand the

I don't understand the relapse part, if I return to my addiction does that mean I had recovered? Guess no

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1. Quit games 2. Recover If

1. Quit games

2. Recover

If relapse at any time, then rinse repeat.

Relapses can tell us many things that we didn't know before, like how powerless we really are about gaming and how our lives are totally unmanageable--by us.

This is a "we" program. We cannot do this alone. No one NEEDS to relapse, but if we do, it can teach us many things.

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And the closer we stay

And the closer we stay *actively in* recovery, the less likely we are to relapse.

Acceptance. When I am disturbed, it is because a person, place, thing, or situation is unacceptable to me. I find no serenity until I accept my life as being exactly the way it is meant to be. Nothing happens in God’s world by mistake.  Acknowledge the problem, but live the solution!

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Sheep-330 wrote: I don't
Sheep-330 wrote:

I don't understand the relapse part, if I return to my addiction does that mean I had recovered? Guess no

The best thing that relapse did for me was to show me that I need to take this addiction more seriously than I have. It's not something that you can just become cured of. It stays with you forever and you need to continually keep your guard up or it will sneak up on you and take you by surprise.

A great article, Wollf....thanks for sharing it.

 

Nobody can go back and start a new beginning, but anyone can start today and make a new ending. ~Maria Robinson

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In case of me, I yet never

In case of me, I yet never relapsed in anything(I'm not denying the fact I can relapse at any time, which I am aware of).

But you are right, these freaking games are chasing me too, still. I still have dreams and quite good portion of my imagination and thoughts and visions related to video games I played, when I close my eyes I still see my chars, weapons, loading screens, zones, etc really it's like crack once you try it, you have a problem.

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Sheep-330 wrote: I don't
Sheep-330 wrote:

I don't understand the relapse part, if I return to my addiction does that mean I had recovered? Guess no

Good question, Sheep. It's not a good idea to try to relapse, it's not a good idea to relapse. It's just that it often happens to us before we finally manage to stay clean. And we can learn from a relapse, but only if we stop and come back. Some people relapse and are gone for years. It's quite dangerous, so I don't recommend it. But it happens anyway. It's happened to me. I hope it doesn't happen to you. But if it does, just come back. No one here will judge you. Always come back.

Have I quit games forever? I can't know that. All I know is that I'm not going to play today. And I've been able to stick to that for about 385 days in a row. Hopefully I can stick to that tomorrow.

Tommi meant something kind of like that, I think.

I am a recovering computer game and gambling addict. My recovery birthday: On May 6, 2012 I quit games and began working a program of recovery through OLGA No computer games or slot games for me since December 12, 2012. No solitaire games with real cards since June 2013.

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Well let's hope it won't

Well let's hope it won't happen to me then :) . Thanks for support tho

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I am very happy you all like

I am very happy you all like the article, and thanks Dan, for the warm welcome :)

Sheep: i had the same question when I read the article, so do not worry that you might have been the only one to not get it at the first sight. I thought about it thoroughly and came to the solutions everybody actually already posted here.

I hope, I won't relapse (again), and I hope you will not either :)

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Sheep-330 wrote: I don't
Sheep-330 wrote:

I don't understand the relapse part, if I return to my addiction does that mean I had recovered? Guess no

In my experience, the answer is "No." Something in the article that I really stick to me:

"So I've learned that when people congratulate me, that's when I focus on my flaws. That way I don't allow my narcissism to fly sky-high and allow me to think that I can act out without any consequences.

But this time, after drinking for two or three days, I came back. I didn't wait for an intervention. I just got right back on the wagon. After years of therapy, I had learned not to beat up on myself. I remembered that relapse is a part of recovery.

I'm on the pathway to humility, fully aware that you can't rule until you've served."

Good stuffs! Thanks for sharing.

It's good to have goals and dreams, but while you're waiting for things to change, waiting for promises to come to pass, don't be discontent with where you are. Learn to enjoy the season that you're in--Pastor Joel Osteen

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