You Cannot Save People

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You Cannot Save People

Acceptance. When I am disturbed, it is because a person, place, thing, or situation is unacceptable to me. I find no serenity until I accept my life as being exactly the way it is meant to be. Nothing happens in God’s world by mistake.  Acknowledge the problem, but live the solution!

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Truth and Wisdom! 

Truth and Wisdom!

Andrew Doan MD PhD

My Videos: Internet gaming disorder is real & my story 

*The views expressed are of the author's and do not necessarily reflect the official policy of the U.S. Navy or Department of Defense.

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Agreed.   I cannot save my

Agreed.

I cannot save my son from the choices he makes.

All I can do is not enable his poor choices and love him by offering the resources and support (that I'm able to provide) to improve his situation.

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mommy3 wrote: Agreed.   I
mommy3 wrote:

Agreed.

I cannot save my son from the choices he makes.

All I can do is not enable his poor choices and love him by offering the resources and support (that I'm able to provide) to improve his situation.

This is such a good way to summarise things. Thanks!

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Actually you *can save

Actually you *can save people from themselves, by believing that *they can save themselves from themselves.

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When I am disturbed, it is

When I am disturbed, it is because I find some person, place, thing, or situation--some fact of my life --unacceptable to me, and I can find no serenity until I accept that person, place, thing, or situation as being exactly the way it is supposed to be at this moment

Accepting people and situations the way they are opens up a world of possibilities. Anger and frustration come from expecting change in others. Instead, in the program, we are invited to live *our* lives differently, to accept change in ourselves, and to create change in our own lives.

I love whatMarianne Williamson has to say about this in her famous quote:

"...as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others"

You can't save people, but you can help them. You can sit on the curb with them. You can listen to their story. You can speak to them with compassion. You can share the things that you have found with them.

No one who is powerless over an addiction recovers without help. We recover together.

I am a recovering computer game and gambling addict. My recovery birthday: On May 6, 2012 I quit games and began working a program of recovery through OLGA No computer games or slot games for me since December 12, 2012. No solitaire games with real cards since June 2013.

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I have often envisioned

I have often envisioned saving someone from raging flood waters, then lying on the side of the riverbank, exhausted. I watch helplessly as the fool dives back in to the raging flood waters of their own free will, first enjoying to thrill, then unable to stay afloat.....

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