In the program, we are encouraged to make small but lasting changes in our behavior. This is because the experiences of many recovering addicts have been that large changes in behavior usually can't be sustained over time. Willpower only takes us so far--we must learn a new way of living. That's hard for us, and it takes time. Here are some of the slogans we use to remind ourselves of this:
Easy Does It
One Step at a Time
First Things First
12 Miles into the Forest, 12 Miles out
Do the Next Right Thing
Be Gentle with Yourself
I ran across a TeD talk by a researcher in behavioral change that shows that what the recovering addicts in the fellowship have known for a long time can be shown scientifically. In this talk, he shares with the audience how to develop a new habit. I found it fascinating and I started applying it right away (actually, I started applying some of it a while ago at the suggestion of my sponsors, but I see it even more clearly now).
The title is: Forget Big Change, Start with a Tiny Habit
I am a recovering computer game and gambling addict. My recovery birthday: On May 6, 2012 I quit games and began working a program of recovery through OLGA No computer games or slot games for me since December 12, 2012. No solitaire games with real cards since June 2013.