My boyfriend and I have been dating a year now. He is self employed and works from home. He has been playing since vanilla WoW, taking breaks here and there. Let me start out by saying he has an extremely addictive personality, and of corse I'd rather him be playing video games than going out and partying. I have never had a problem with boyfriends playing video games, thats what guys do. I also happen to enjoy video games, but the amount of time he spends playing World of Warcraft is far past just a hobby.
When we first started dating, he hadn't played in about a year or so. I fell in love with him and only him. When we moved in together, and the new expansion came out, he fell right back into the trap. Now I feel like im fighting a god **** computer game for my boyfriends love and attention. I honestly feel like a side chick. I have tried everything I could possibly think of to spend more time together as a couple, but his response is always the same, "We sit in the same room together all day, all we do is spend time together."
What I cant seem to get across to him is that although we are in the same room, i feel like theres a big wall separating us. I will ask him a question and have to wait 30 seconds to a few minutes before I get a response because WoW takes first priority. I feel so lonely and I don't want to pester him because I know its his passion, but i cant help but feel like I'm wasting my time. I don't want my entire life to be cooped up in a room begging for attention.
The first thing he does when he wakes up is turns on his computer and literally plays the entire day and entire night. (which makes the room 100 degrees because his computer generates so much heat, and he doesn't care that im melting). When I wake up in the morning, he usually goes to bed. Then I wind up tip toeing around the room trying not to wake him up until it's dinner time. He sleeps with me maybe 2 times a week and thats only because he feels guilty when I break down.
I know I'm not crazy, or overly sensitive. I'm done beating myself up and feeling like the bad guy for trying to take him away from something he loves. I've told him over and over again that I would never ask him to stop playing all together. All I'm asking for is a little time out of the day, watch a movie together or something. I honestly am so low maintenance for a girl its silly. I don't expect gifts or date nights or expensive food. I never mistreat him, and I'm always looking for ways to make him happy but I feel it isn't good enough.
I know he loves me, and every time we have an argument about this, at the end he reassures me that he truly does love me and isn't intending on any of this. And i honestly believe him. But I know he isn't trying as hard as he could be and he doesn't realise what he's got. I'm a pretty girl who happens to be nice, loving, and loyal. I don't go out with friends, I clean, and I really dont ask for much. I can't help but feel like someone out there would truly appreciate me more. We have such a connection though, and when he actually fully gives his attention to me, we have a great time.
But since he doesn't want to do anything but play WoW, I created an account to hopefully spend time together while doing something he loves. But when we play together, it usually ends up with me upset because he yells at me and makes me feel dumb for being a noob. I like the game, but I don't have an obsession like he does. I listen to him go on and on about World of Warcraft stuff, which half of it I barely understand, but i let him tell me all about it because I know its what he loves to do and all he wants to talk about.
I don't know what else I can possibly do at this point. I have tried everything I could think of to make this work but at the end of the day, I wind up lonely, feeling second-best, sweating my ass off, and right back to square one. I really love this guy and theres no doubt in my mind that he loves me back but I really am at a loss.