IMVU Addiction.

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IMVU Addiction.

IMVU addicted to a Fantasy World

Until I READ the information on this website about characteristics of addiction to online games & could say YES to almost every question. I thought that what I was partaking in was for the most part harmless. ( and for the record IMVU is just a game !! as much as it seems so real. ) 

I know I have an addictive personality, this has always been the case, and I throw myself into things with both feet.  But addicted to IMVU?  Ok, hands up , YES I confess I am, and it is to the detriment of my real life.  My real relationships have suffered, as has my health. If I am not online gaming I feel down and depressed, with a certain emptiness inside, and have had thoughts such as life sucks, and real life is boring.....of COURSE real life IS boring,   99% of the time, we wake up  we do our daily stuff, revolving around " normal" run of the mill family life, and work.... And let's face it work for most people is just a means to an end, a way of paying the bills, and not anything that stimulates our senses or we actually enjoy doing !

It stands to reason how human beings look for forms of escapism, ways to escape the dull drudge that IS real life.  Some people "get lost" in a book or a film... others take drugs or alcohol to momentarily avoid the dullness or loneliness in their lives.

My DRUG of choice has been IMVU  and it has been a powerful one, and one who's  total withdrawl from at the moment seems impossible,  but IS possible due all the accounts of recovered addicts on the OLGA website ! This gives me hope.

What is the pull of IMVU?  it is many things to many people, and it has varied a lot in the year that I have been a member.  Who wouldn't like to look like a supermodel at all times, ( even when they are roughing it in old Pajamas at home? )  There is little or no effort involved in being able to impress others.  Where else could I go to meet people who ALSO look like they have stepped out of some movie set or actually right out of my dreams?  Nowhere, because it ISN'T real.

Every relationship made on IMVU is fake, it is an illusion of intimacy nothing more.

But if you find a person whom you click with, and have lots in common with, and actually find yourself getting attracted to, you are on dangerous grounds. And it becomes a slippery slope.

How do I know this, it has happened to me on more than one occasion.  Each time, I have not been actively "looking  or searching" for such relationships, but as in real life, just by being in a certain place ( chat room ) at a certain time with a random chance meeting, your life can change in the click of a mouse !

And don't tell me you can't fall "in love" online, as you CAN, and I have done, and the guilt of knowing I should not have weighs heavy on my mind and heart.

I did not realise the extent of my problem until reading forums on the OLGA site. I would recommend this to anyone of you here who are having problems in your real life and seeking IMVU as a form of escape.

Get out while you can, while it has not grabbed you by the throat and taken a hold of you.

Do you really want sleepless nights, illness, boughts of depression, aniety? and to lose your zest for life? I wish someone had warned ME before I ever made an account. However until it has actually happened to you,

you would never believe the accounts of lives ruined by such an innocuous  little " game".

Thank you IMVU for wasting over a year of my life.

I hope over the next few weeks and months I may be able to tear myself slowly away from your powerful grip, and start to rebuild everything I have lost.

Though going cold turkey on this may not work for me at present. My aim is to limit the time I log in to IMVU and try to start up some hobbies in the real world. And get my life back.

Anyone who is struggling or has struggled with IMVU themselves is most welcome to message me, I would love to support you as you too begin to see the light !

It finally is

 

GAME OVER.

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Thank you for sharing your

Thank you for sharing your story.

Glad you are here!

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hello there

Thanks for sharing your story !! Imvu is worst than drugs could ruin your life and bad for your health also i been playing imvu for years i finally.gave up and uninstalled that game. A lot of cyber bullying occur and its.bad

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Heavy addiction only 1 week in.

Ok, I stumbled on to IMVU and only 1 week later, I am in serious trouble. Something happened to me I was not ready for.

I bought a game controller that I wanted to play games with in linux. I was looking at a list of games that seemed to work in linux under Wine and IMVU was one of them.  So I installed it and the adventure begins. Before long, I was starring into the abyss and I knew my my family was in jeopardy(I am day one away from IMVU and her, and I am still worried).

The IMVU adventure started off poorly for me since many of the people seemed rude and obnoxious. That alone made me want to just uninstall it and chalk it off as a worthless endeavour. It is free to play starting out, I figured whats the harm in looking through the rooms in search of people to hang out with. I did find a small group of people that seemed pretty fun to talk to. We would crack jokes and all get a good laugh. I enjoyed popping in there once in a while to say hi. Things were looking up at this point. I managed to find a of couple cool rooms and I discovered the plethora of creative things to get involved in like creating 3d models and modifying patterns and skins etc. I just wasn't convinced this game was worth paying money for at this point and was going to uninstall it on the 3rd day of wasting too many hours in search of people to talk to.  If I wanted good theme based conversation, I was much better off just finding a technical based room in Freenode on irc.

I was getting close to signing off and I went into just one more room and I materialize next to a avatar that looks like satan with spikes sticking out of it all over. Note to self. When you see satan, don't start a conversation with it.

So I made some stupid joke about poking your eye out on one of the spikes, and asked the girl why she would want to walk around looking like that.  She told me she enjoyed making avitars like that and super heros and stuff. OK.  Then she said she had some nice ones she usually uses; She loaded up one of her normal avatars, and I was completely blown away. This thing was stunningly beautiful because of the time and effort she put into creating the well balanced seductive look of her avatars. I was truly complimentary and honestly curious about how she picked out certain things and whether or not she created any of the skins or tattoos that were on them.  She showed me maybe 10 or 15 different ones, and this one samurai girl she made with swords and a kung foo program were so realistic and stunningly professional. She really is an artist the way she puts together her avatars, and her rooms, which I was soon to discover.

We talked for a long time about a lot of things and we really hit it off well. I thought that I finally met someone cool in IMVU that seems to know a bit about the modeling and other fun creative aspects of IMVU. Plus her avis are extremely hot right ;)  She told me that I am different than most guys who are usually jerks, and she wanted to show me some more cool stuff. She wanted to show me some of her rooms that she put together. So I said sure lets check them out. I cant remember the exact order she showed me the rooms, but I do remember them getting increasingly more sexual in nature.  I don't want to make this an advertisement for IMVU so ill try to spare the details, and those who have played it know that its all in the furniture programs. She was excited to show me everything she put together. Before you know it, im sitting in a chair and her Avi is on my Avi kissing. I must say, it looked and felt nice. Its only a game. No harm right?

Mind you, at this point, I never had any intentions  of trying to smooth talk her and try to manipulate her or anything like that. I was just appreciative of her Avis, and I really liked her personality. She was really cool and we talked for many hours. She revealed to me later that the fact that I was not trying to peruse her made her want to peruse me even more and I just went along with way more than I should have.  She made me feel really good and alive like I haven't felt in a really long time. She also made me feel things ive never felt ever. It was a little confusing. She revealed that she normally only hangs with girls on IMVU and I am not like the other guys and she did something with me she never did with a guy on IMVU before. Im not sure I believe that, but the circumstantial evidence that followed did seem to support that she was being honest about that. Im leaving out some details, but needless to say, she made me feel special, in ways I never felt before. 

The next day,  we were chatting and I pointed out to her that my profile status says that I am married, and I feel that I should not have done what I did yesterday. She said she didn't notice and we agreed to not do that again and just be friends. I made sure she knew right away because the way she was starting to talk, I was getting the impression that she had " big plans" for me. Things that any guy in IMVU would dream of. Things were just getting started according to her. So I wanted to point that out before things went too far and she got hurt.

I felt good the next day in real life. I felt alive. I had a girl show serious interest in me and I thought, I was flattered that she liked me,  and if it made her feel better, I assured her I am not here to try to do anything with other girls and make her jealous. I know this sounds weird  to someone reading, that people would be talking like this only 3 days in to knowing each other, but somehow relationships seem to evolve fast in IMVU. I am not sure why.  I just didn't want to lead her on. 

At this point I have really enjoyed our conversations, and how similar our interests were.  It seemed like two rare earth magnets just slammed together.  every time we started talking,  it just kept getting deeper and more personal. I was really starting to get to know her so I think. She explained to me how she doesn't really think I didn anything wrong to my wife since it is just a game. And there is no worry that it can become real. She would never let that happen and it is only for fantasy.  After seeing how I ended it and how she reacted I sort of believe her that she is able to maintain this distinction. 

I started to realize that I was heading for trouble. Im not sure when it happened, but I started wanting her. She would pay really strong attention to me and make me feel like the most important thing to her, but then sort of push me a way a little and make me feel the urge to persue her.  Somehow again while talking and her showing me things she really seduced me and we started to go at it again. This time it was pretty bad and felt very guilty. i feel like I cheated on my wife badly.

I really dont know how things can get so serious so fast, or how people can connect with others and not be affected. I no longer was interested in just playing the game for fantasy purposes and I wasnt just attracted to her for her avitars, though the visual appeal does help to calcify the connection you feel to the person on the other end. I realized that during our time together I could ignore the avitar and just be concentrating on our text conversation, and the image of her that I had built up in my head from the nearly 15 or so hours we spent together talking about ourselves.

I found that I was thinking about her constantly. I had to be careful when driving that I didnt rear end a car because I couldn't stop thinking about her. I dont know what the heck she did to me. When I wasn't around her, I felt heavy on my chest and a burning inside me. When I would go on IMVU, when her invite box would pop up, my eyes would get wide, and my heart would practically stop for a beat. I was falling for this girl really really hard. It was scaring me really bad. I started to think that Im not going to stop until I get her for real. I didnt care about the game or the Avitar. I was getting attracted to the person I was talking to, who I just had sex with twice. Maybe three times, Im not even sure. If it was just that and nothing more it might not have been a big deal, but we talked so much on top of it.  I just cant handle something like that. Even though she says she can, I don't believe it. 

So now I am looking at a situation where I am almost having a panic attack because I can see where this is going and the end result will be me losing my family.  So I told her I cant handle this and I have to uninstall the game and cant talk to her anymore.  I told her I am crushing on her really bad and explained how i felt off the game and away from her.  She said then maybe I shouldn't do this. I said some more to her and at some point she said I was worrying too much and she would never get in the way of a marriage. Then she said she is not in the right frame of mind right now to talk about it right now and was in the middle of building a room with another friend lol, and that she would talk to me about it tomorrow.  She said come back on tomorrow and she will be here she promises Ok. She made it sound like and order. I asked, are you ordering me? She said yes.  I basically said yes maam lol. 

Then I uninstalled that crap.  Just before I uninstalled it I inboxed her saying Im sorry i cant come back tomorrow. I cant handle it. I told her that if she would have even shown more interest in my problem she would have had a better chance of  keeping me there. Sounds crazy doesn't it? here I am, I want to get away from her, but I feel sad that she didnt show more empathy for what I was just going through. 

Today in the morning I still had the mobile app on my phone and i was curious if she would respond to my last inbox. She didnt respond to it. I then went online and deleted my account too. Right now I am 1 day from not talking to her. I still think about her and IMVU often. I feel like a relative has died.  I miss her a lot. I know people reading this are going to think Im crazy, but something involuntary and subconscious happens when you click with someone really well, and have relations with the like 3 times. Pretty heated relations. And add on top of that  the way this girl was talking to me, it got inside my head way too bad.

Im still curious why she didnt respond, and I keep thinking about going on to talk to her. She is not allowing me to get closure. Am I just really freaking stupid, or is she a master at manipulating? lol   Anyone wanting to play this, just stay away and live in the real world. This game is designed to addict you by shear availability of sensory overload. I feel like I am coming out of a fog and im not sure what the heck just hit me.

arrr

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Welcome she_got_me

Welcome she_got_me

If I told you that this girl was a 58 year old guy fooling a string of people like yourself for kicks would that bring you to your senses? Have you seen the TV show Catfish ? Nothing is what it seems on the internet.

You have experienced a dopamine rush and your brain wants more. Your brain is easily fooled. This is pure fantasy in your brain.

Quit now while you can and your sensible part of your brain still has some control. Or the rest of your life could go down the tubes. You are not alone with this. Don't allow yourself to be exploited.

 

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Reading your post I can say

Reading your post I can say my exp has some similarity. 

My addiction is clash of clan for close to a year.

my addition to the game has more to do with a guy I met in the clan. Nothing so sexual as yours but nonetheless he made me feel special, and I find myself staying in the game just so I can catch him and chat. I became so bad that I stated to make up conversations with him in my head while I'm not even playing. 

I had tried leaving 2 times. First time he followed me to a new clan, 2nd time I left because I was jealous he was flirting with another girl, but I rejoined after being miserable for 12hr. But as my emotions went on constant roller coaster rides I decide enough is enough. I planned to leave a few days ago. I m out for 1.5 day so far. I have reinstalled the game 12 times but I didn't talk to him or anyone. I made it so that I can ever go back. So I will have to stay out. 

Sammi

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