My BF (we've been together 2 years) I have lived with him for just as long. We have had almost the dream relationship and Im not exagerating. He got laid off in November, and he focused on a few projects around the house until about January. Since January, he has been gaming. At first i was okay with it, because he was making friends online and interacting. So i was thankful he wasnt completely closig himself off from the world. Until i found out that all day long, the people he had been playing with was another woman. Which he lied to me about when i asked him if that was a girl. I expressed my dislike and let him know i didnt think that it was appropriate that he was playing online and voice chatting with another woman all day while i was at work, and then continued once i was home.
He finally was able to quit playing with her, by dropping group everytime she joined him. ( it was every time he logged on, she was joing his team). I tried to play the game with him, but it didnt make anything better because all he did was talk to the people in game and completely ignored me. Even though i was sitting right next to him....its exhausting. From the moment he wakes up until i make him come to bed, he is playing the game, only to break for dinner.
I cannot communicate with him about it, in person at least. i get called every name in the book and told im insecure and just gut wrenching names you would never think your SO would say to you. Even though i know he is only lashing out due to anger and denial, it still hurts.
I have sent him a very long, loving detailed text last week telling him the issues and what i wish he would do to spend more time with me and his son. Today i caught him playing with a woman again, and here came the name calling and now the treats to break up with me have started. I know that once he starts work again, the gaming will stop and so will the fights. But what if he ends this before that? how do i stop it? how do i convince him that he is in the wrong, and not me? i dont know where to go from here.