My hunni is a gamer and I try to be supportive even thought he plays for hours. We moved in together a few months ago and we almost broke up twice over Destiny. I was so hurt by that because I feel like I do so much for him and try to support him and encourage him in everything and he was really willing to end things over this game! I am not a very emotional person but I cannot count how many times I have cried over Destiny. I was/am really heart broken and I felt horrible.
We kind of tried to work out a system where he limited his play time to two hours but we never stuck to anything. Then metal gear solid came out and he started playing that for hours but somehow it didnt really bother me as much as Destiny I guess because he didn't get mad over it and it didnt put him in a foul mood.
Now Destiny has begun rearing its ugly head again!! I hate feeling like this game is more important than I am!!! I would never put anything above my man except God other than that he is #1. Its so frustrating feeling like I am talking to a brick wall because there is no pause button.I have less worth than a game . Our German shepard likes to chase cars and I saw him out on the road and was trying to tell that if someone is pulling out out of the house he needs to be put in the garage so he doesnt get hit.(He almost got hit by a car a few days ago so I was worried). He totally ignored me and like an idiot I went to fix him some delicious chicken alfredo. When I confronted him about this he just said he would give his dog up. Im like how can he not see that he is addicted?!?!? Give up your dog really???? For Destiny??? I am really worried about what kind of father he will be in the future.
TL;DR
My man ignores me for Destiny while I stay devoted to him; he cant tell he has a problem and was willing to give up his dog so he could continue to play that stupid game. He accused me of saying he didnt cae about his own dog which I never said.
Welcome Christi
Thank you for sharing your situation with us.
We have many stories from significant others of gamers on this forum. I think if you can keep coming back to read their experiences you will find out more about gaming problems and what you can do in this situation
There is general advice here: http://www.olganon.org/spouses_of_excessive_gamers
Many of the member stories declare that compulsive gamers who are in denial or not serious about recovery make absent parents; i.e. its very likely you will be parenting alone and your children will be trying and failing to get attention from the gamer. It's very sad. Better that you chose somebody who will be there to support and nuture children.
All the best to you.
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girl, story of my life. And if I even say anything my boyfriend gets beyond defensive. Destiny is ruining my relationship as well and I have a couple of friends that feel the same way about destiny. It's sad that my 2 year old asks if daddy is going to play his game. It scares me that one day he's going to ask me why daddy won't play with him instead of playing the game. Hang in there!
*DMariee